Wednesday, November 30, 2016

The Church Where I Married You

I sit in the Church
Where I married you
The Big Church
On the Avenue

And I realize
That my life 
Has never been 
Of my own design

It's guided by God
Mysteriously 
For His own purposes
Both earthly and divine

I sit in the Church
Where I married you
It's quiet 
Now 
And I am 
Quiet inside



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Monday, November 28, 2016

Make Love To Them

When someone comes
Into your life
And inspires the sweetest passions
Who elevates 
Your secret world 
To new exquisite heights

When that someone is
Is right there 
With you
Looking in your eyes
And holding your hand
And every word they say
Moves you completely
And everything they do
Moves you
Body and Soul
As no one in the world
Has done before

Please
Make love to them
Please
Just make love to them

Make love to them
As much and as often as you can
Make love to them
Morning and noon and night

Get up early
Stay up late
Miss work
Cancel appointments
Skip the party
Pay the bills next month
Record the game
After all
It's only the Super Bowl

Do whatever you have to 
To spend 
As MUCH time as possible
With your lover

Make love to them
In every room
Make love to them 
In the car
Make love to them
Both inside and out
Make love to them
In the shower

Make love to them
And then
Make love to them AGAIN
Make love 
Until you can't 
Possibly
Make love to them
Any More
And then find a way to do it
Again
Do it some more
You can
I'm sure

Make love to them
Tenderly
Passionately
Beautifully
Expressively

Make love to them
With all of your 
Soul
And all your heart 
And all of your strength
And conviction

Why?
For God's sake,
Don't you know that
Life won't last forever.
And even if it did
Things happen
And things 
That you'd hoped would last
Will fade away

Make love to you lover
Every day
And enjoy every precious moment

Make love to them
In any way
When you should be doing other things
Oh
And don't let that bother you
Because THAT PERSON
Is the most important thing
Of all

Make love to them now
Please
Don't think
Just DO it
And do it like 
CRAZY
You can thank me later
Or better yet
Just keep making love

Make love to them tonight and tomorrow
Make love to them all week long
Make love to them
As though
The end of the world
Is coming
Because
If it is
Then you should be coming
Too!

Make love to them
As if there's no tomorrow
Because 
One day
There won't be
And you'll be 
Shocked
And you'll be
Lost
And you'll feel 
Cheated
And desperate
And horrible
In ways that you cannot yet imagine

And then
You'll wish that you'd listened
You'll wish that you had
Taken seriously
This well-meaning bit of advice

You'll wish that
You had 
Made LOVE to them 
Five or ten 
or FIFTEEN TIMES more
Than you did
When 
You had the chance 




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Rien n'est nécessaire

Many years ago, when I was first getting to know the person who would become my wife, we had a conversation to explore each other's likes and dislikes. I don't remember why, but at the time we were speaking French.

She asked me if I would enjoy having her prepare a meal for me sometime. 

This sounded like a lot of work, and I didn't want her to go to all that trouble. I said, "Ça n'est pas nécessaire." (That's not necessary.)

I'll never forget her reply. "Rien n'est nécessaire." (Nothing is necessary.)

My mind did a virtual back flip as I recognized the wisdom in this simple statement. 

We do nice things for people because we want to, not because it's demanded or expected. We give of ourselves because it is rewarding to do so. It's never a chore or a duty to do something for someone for whom you care. It's an expression of love. It's pure and mutually enjoyable.

I accepted her invitation. We worked on the dinner together and had a wonderful time. 

I remember the statement often: Rien n'est nécessaire. Do what you do because you want to, because you love to do it, or because you love the other person. That's the finest motivation in the universe. What a gift it is to bring love and happiness into someone's life through our actions! 




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Friday, November 25, 2016

The Wind and The Sand

The Wind Blows
And the Sand
Goes
Where it
Needs to go


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Thursday, November 24, 2016

The Next 12 Months

Some things that I would like to do over next twelve months:


Take a walk every day.
Run every other day.
Try all of the restaurants in my neighborhood. 


Spend more time in nature.
Spend more time in church.
Spend more time at the park. 

Read more Shakespeare.
Learn something new.
See more live entertainment.
Watch more comedy. 

Be more thoughtful. 
Give out more compliments.
Have more one on one interaction with friends. 
Make sure that people know how special they are. 

Drink less coffee. 
Eat less junk. 
Find some gluten free pasta and baked goods that actually taste good. 

Write more songs.
Take more naps.
Jump on a plane and go somewhere. 
Spend less time sitting in a chair. 

Remember that life is not a given and that none of us will be here for very long.


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Thanksgiving Day 2016

Wishing everyone good health, wonderful blessings, deep fulfillment, true love, and infinite possibilities this Thanksgiving Day!


Tuesday, November 22, 2016

Let The Past Live In The Past

Let the past
Live in The Past 
It doesn't want to live 
I'm your head 

Don't analyze 
Don't criticize 
Just accept 
And move ahead 

It's okay to express 
How you feel 
The emotions inside 
Are real 

But 
There's not much to do 
About it 
You're much better off 
Without it

The ultimate measure 
Of your life 
Is how you feel and function 
Today 

Let the past 
Live in The Past 
Let raw feelings  
Float away 

Let the past 
Live in The Past 
It belongs there 
Anyway 



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Monday, November 21, 2016

New York Minute 43 - Arrogant Cyclists

I run on city streets in the small space between the parked cars and the moving vehicles. 

Admittedly, this is a bit dangerous. I have to pay close attention to the traffic. Sometimes that gap closes and I have to take refuge on the sidewalk or between parked cars. 

I also need to be mindful of an array of potential hazards - buses pulling into and out of their stops, taxicabs pulling over to drop of their passengers, the doors on those cabs swinging open, double parked cars and delivery trucks, drivings looking for parking spaces instead of watching the traffic (or me), garbage trucks, construction sites, dumpsters on the side of the street which block any escape lane. 

The list goes on. Running in the streets is as much a mental challenge as it is a physical one. But I am careful, and I have been doing this for five years now without incident. Knock on blacktop.

Luckily, except for the parking space hawks and the guys in the garbage trucks, most motor vehicle operators are aware and respectful and help keep me free from bodily harm. I appreciate that.

I do, however, get some friction from people on bicycles from time to time. It's not the people who ride for exercise - they just care about their workout. And it's not the Asian and Latin American delivery bike guys. They're just trying to make a living and keep out of trouble.

But there are some young, male, joyriding American jerks out there who think that a) they own the street, b) runners are trespassing on their territory, and c) it is their civic responsibility to "tell off" any runner who crosses their path.

I encountered one of these lovely people this evening. He was looking down when I first saw him, i.e. not watching where he was going. When he looked up and saw me in front of him, he reacted.

"Really? REALLY?"

"Yeah," I said. What's the big deal? The guy had plenty of space.

"REALLY?" he said with elevated aggression.

"YEAH!"

"F%^& YOU!" he shouted (without the special characters).

I threw a few choice curse words back in his direction. He didn't stop. He didn't come after me. Just kept peddling back to mommy's house.

Why do I have to put up with this crap?



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Think Of What Your Mind Can Do

Think of what 
Your mind 
Can do
You're pretty good 
At being you 


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All Rights Reserved 

A Happy Place

I finally realized
What I've been
Missing
In Life:
A Happy Place

I don't know how
I missed this...
I hear people
Saying things
Like
"When the customers
Start shouting,
I
Just go to my
Happy Place."
I never knew
What that meant.
It just seemed like
A cute, trendy
Thing to say.

But lately I've started
To Wonder -
What if there
Really is such a thing
And why didn't I
Figure out
How to GET one?
It sounds like
A Good Thing
To Have
Don't you think
For emergencies

I searched for a while
On the Internet
But
The results were
Inconclusive
I looked up the words
On Amazon
But they don't seem to
Sell them
(Not even on Ebay)

So
Anyway
I figured out that
I'm just going to have to
Make one
On my own

What goes into
A Happy Place
I wondered
(No, seriously, I did!)
I guess it's just
A collection of Things
That comfort you
And
Make you Feel Happy
Like memories of
Special
Times
The BEST moments
Of your Life

I thought back
Over
My experiences
And
All that's Happened
Through the years.
What were some of the
Happiest Occasions?

Examples from
My childhood
Came flooding
Into my mind:
Christmas mornings
Opening gifts
Sunday dinners at
Grandma's House
Playing and coloring
On the floor
With my Mom
Sled riding
Down a big hill
(I've always loved toboggans!)
Playing Frisbee
With my father
And my sister
In the waning hours
Of the afternoon

I thought back again
To when
My son
Was born
And the amazing
Sequence of events
That led to his
Arrival
In this world

I thought of our times
Playing together
In the park
When he was small
Making up ball games
As we went along
Hiking with him
At Grand Canyon
When he was
A little older
Sharing a beer
With our meals
In Salzburg
Looking over Paris
From the top
Of the
Eiffel Tower
Soaking our shoes
To the core
In the chilling rains
Of the Scottish Highlands

I recalled some
Meaningful moments
From my
Grown-up life
As well

Wandering Coastal Highways
And the
Immaculate Wilderness
Working hard
With my camera
To bring some of 
Their Majesty
Back Home
Throwing creative
Houseparties
Where scores of friends
All had a good time
And several of them
Got to meet
Their future
Spouses!

Spending
Long
Intimate
Unstructured
Saturdays
In the arms
Of the Love of My Life
Even the
Simple pleasures 
Of pleasant evenings
Watching reruns
Of CSI
While enjoying
An oversized helping
Of my favorite pasta
Sometimes
There was a load of laundry
Tumbling along
Downstairs
Extra credit
Of course
If first
I squeezed in a relaxing run
Before my dinner.
Running
Always DELIVERS me
To a Happy Place
That I can 
Reach
Whenever I need it

I should also mention
Those
Special Christmas Days
I've spent with
My family
When we all get together
Especially
The Nieces and Nephews
I like to shower
With gifts from afar

So
There you have it
I'm well on my way
To constructing
A Happy Place
Of my own
So far
It looks beautiful
And when
I step inside
I feel
Love and Joy and Peace
And Wonderful Vibrance
I'm so glad
That I've finally found my way
To this
Exquisitely Warm Oasis
It will help
To shelter
My soul
From the many burdens
That I Encounter 



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Sunday, November 20, 2016

Forgiveness

Forgiveness
I don't even know
What that word
Means
Do you?

How does it work
Exactly?
You forgive the man
Who raped your
Daughter, 
And then say
"Hey!
Just to show
That there are 
No hard feelings,
Why don't 
The two of you 
Go out
For a hike 
In the forest?"

There's 
No such thing
As Forgiveness
It's a feeble attempt
To mitigate
The intensity of our
Anger
And our Sadness
And even that
Is suspect

We gloss over 
The pain
With
Layer after layer
Of mildly pleasant
Experiences
Like painting 
Over a
BRIGHT RED WALL
With 
Coat after coat of white
Or
Trying 
To fix
A hideously broken
Wedding cake
With a big bucket
Of oozing
Saccharine icing.
The chaos
Still lurks below
And everyone knows it

Forget about it

There is 
NO Forgiveness
In the lives
Of mortal
Creatures.
Only God 
Has that kind of Grace
To spare
And even He
Doles it out
With strict conditions

No 
Man nor woman 
No
Imperfect being
Will ever find 
Forgiveness 
In their lifetime


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Saturday, November 19, 2016

Scott - In Loving Memory

You always knew
What to expect 
With Scott
A smile 
And a baseball cap 
For starters

The cap sometimes
Had a Steelers logo,
And sometimes it was just
Plain tan.
It didn't have to be fancy.
Scott was comfortable in anything.

Speaking of the Steelers
Scott loved
EVERYTHING
About
His big, bright hometown 

He loved smiling, too!
It came to him
So easily 
And naturally 
That warm, constant,
Brotherly smile 
That made everyone 
In the room
Feel welcome 
And at ease.

At the funeral
Scott's brother described him as 
The nicest guy in the world.

I have to agree.
He was good to his kids
And a friend
To anyone
He got to know
For more than
Ten seconds

Every family 
Has a rock, 
Someone 
Whom you can count on 
To step up
And help 
Anytime
Anywhere

Scott used to show up
Unannounced 
To mow the grass
When my father 
Couldn't do it.
Scott was a busy 
Family man
With a demanding job.
He didn't have time
To come over 
And do chores
On a lark, 
But he did it anyway.

That's what kind of guy he was,
Unselfish to a fault
I could learn
Some important lessons 
On character 
From his example.

Most importantly 
Scott always took 
Unwavering 
Care
Of his wife 
And family.
He worked hard
To support them  
For many years.
That's what I admire
About him
Most
Even more
Than his wonderful,
High wattage 
Smile

We'll miss you, Scott.
We already do.
It's not fair
That you
Were taken from us
So soon!
You were one of the
Good Guys
Truly
One of the 
Good Guys 
There aren't enough 
People
In this world
Like you 

In Loving Memory
Scott Buzzá
1957-2016


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Nothing To Do With Me

A man from a bar 
Staggers out to his car
Turns the key
And drives into a tree
That has nothing to do with me
Nothing to do with me

A woman depressed
Puts a gun to her head
The troubles she had -
Bang! They're all dead
That has nothing to do with me
Nothing to do with me

How long will you love?
How much will you share?
How far will you risk
The compulsion to care?
How deeply 
Will you stick your soul
Out there
Where it's easily damaged,
Crushed and abused 
And broken?

A man with tattoos 
That cover his face
People look on and say,
"What a disgrace!"
That has nothing to do with me
No!
Nothing to do with me

Hundreds of protesters 
March in the street
Shouting demands
That no one will meet
They have
Nothing to do with me
Nothing to do with me

I've cried in the sun
And laughed at the rain
Howled at the sky
Till the moon rose again
I've 
Flushed good years
Of my life
Down the drain
'Cause
I choose
When I lose
To incise
And deaden
The pain

When someone comes near
I fall back on the fear
That anyone loving 
Will soon disappear
That has nothing to do with me
As I said
It has nothing to do with me

Where she goes  
And
What she does
Whom she sees
And whom 
She loves
That 
Has nothing to do with me
Nothing to do with me

I said
It has nothing to do with me
Nothing at all



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Friday, November 18, 2016

Steely Dan - Aja

I grew up in the era of vinyl records, black discs, twelve inches in diameter spinning under a diamond needle on a turntable.

You couldn't go to the Internet and listen to any song in the universe. Records cost money and took up space. The size of your collection was limited by your finances and by the capacity of your room, so you tended to stick with artists whose work you enjoyed.

Still, even within a limited collection, you had favorites, recordings that you tended to listen to over and over. My favorites included The Beatles Red Album (1962-1966), Santana Amigos, and Weather Report's Heavy Weather. I spent many wonderful hours listening to musical masterpieces that lept out of those grooves. 

My favorite vinyl record of all was Steely Dan's Aja, which I not only listened to, but analyzed extensively. I was fascinated by Aja, Steely Dan's mournful but defiant tribute to lost love and broken dreams. "I cried when I wrote this song / sue me if I play too long." Sue me, indeed. Emotions this raw cannot be rushed.

I spend countless hours with Aja on my turntable. I studied the complex song structures and poured over the cryptic lyrics and the masterful, jazz-influenced chord changes until the vibe of the album grafted itself to my soul. I transcribed Chuck Rainey's propulsive bass lines and practiced them religiously. I knew all of the saxophone solos so well, I could sing along with every note. I marveled at Larry Carlton's guitar playing and Steve Gadd's incredible drumming on the title track. 

Aja was, or me, the musical equivalent of a Hawaiian vacation, and I spent as much time in those islands as possible. I even transcribed the horn parts so my friends and I could play the songs on weekends.

But what was a young Steely Dan fan to do in an era where the band refused to tour. I was going to a fair number of concerts in those years, but a Steely Dan show seemed as improbable as a Beatles reunion tour. 

I went through all of that to put this next bit in context.

Imagine my delight a few weeks ago when I finally had the opportunity to see Steely Dan perform live at New York's Beacon Theater. But wait, it gets even better. On the night that I saw them, they played the entire Aja album end to end in the same track sequence as the recording. 

Top-five 'bucket list' item: check.

After performing all of the tracks from Aja, "the Dan" cranked out a full evening of hits including Pretzel Logic, My Old School, Black Friday, Hey Nineteen, Bodhisattva, Midnight Cruiser, and one of my very favorite songs of all time, Kid Charlemagne.

It was an amazing evening, well worth the thirty-nine-year wait!


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Back To The Future

I think that I've figured out what happened last week. 

We're all living in Back To The Future 2. Evil Biff is the most powerful man in the world. He got rid of your Dad, he's screwing your Mom, and now he's trying to KILL you. 



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Be Kind

Be Kind
It's hard
Everyone carries 
A heavy load
A tiresome
Painful burden
That's mysteriously 
Invisible 
Think about that
Even though
You can't see 
What someone endures
Be aware that
It's there
And it always feels 
Significant
To them 

Be Patient
It's important
No one can be
In the best of moods
All the time
So
Sometimes
The ones we know best
Will 
Release 
Big heaps
Of their stress
While we're around
Don't let one
Momentary lapse
Of composure
Define them 

Be Loving
And remember that love
Is giving
More than receiving
Giving with all of one's strength
And ALL 
Of one's 
HEART 
Think back to 
The way that 
Your parents loved 
YOU
When you had 
NOTHING
To offer 
But sighs and screams and
POOP
And the occasional 
Giggle
They loved 
So can you 

Be Polite
It helps
A World of 
Injured Souls
Is already cold
And harsh and forbidding 
We don't have to
Make it colder
By being callous 
Aloof 
Or cruel

Be True
Be steady
And sure
And ready
And Pure of Heart
In All
That you DO
And be open
When 
Kindness
Reaches out
To YOU
It will 
If you let it 


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Joy

Joy
Is the intended
Destination
Of all
That
We do

Joy
And the sense
That
Some of it
Was important 


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Thursday, November 17, 2016

The Electoral College

The Electoral College is supposed to be a safeguard, a body of wise and responsible people who can prevent the public from making a rash and foolish choice while electing someone to the highest office in the land. 

We now have the perfect opportunity to test the effectiveness of that role, a political doomsday scenario, the very thing that the Electoral College was designed to stop. Let's see if they'll take a stand and make a reasonable choice for President. If the Electoral college is simply a rubber stamp, it's useless and should be abolished.


To Do Lists

I like to make lists
Of things to do
Today 
This week
And forward 

They help me keep track
Of important things 
Vacation plans
And promises made
Projects in flight 
With more on the way
Films to see
And bills to pay
And stuff 
I shouldn't forget 
To buy
At the market

I mull over my lists
Time after time
And make new ones
Rewriting
Revising
Prioritizing 
Shuffling items from
Previous days
I'm really rather obsessed
With my lists 
You see
I can't help it 

I have to write down
The thoughts 
In my head
As they swim around
Like hungry sharks 
Looking for blood
Competing for my attention
And can I mention 
Driving me mad
In bed
When it's late 
And I'm tired 
And should be sleeping 

Yes
Let's organize
Prioritize
What's important
Today 
And what can slide?
What to do first
And why?
It's important
To always ask why

Should I 
Start with the easiest 
Items today
Or start with the worst
And work
My way 
Up
To more interesting things?
Good question!

How much time 
Will I need
To finish it all?
Should I ask 
For help
Or just knuckle down
And do it myself?
It might never
Get done
If I go it alone
But it's fun
To plan 
Both ways

Yes
I need my lists 
To keep me on track
So
When I get
Distracted 
My judgment
Impacted
They snap me right back
Into line
And all goes fine

Lists
Are like tickets 
To some future date
Where I'm happy 
Productive
And even
Lost weight
A future where I 
Have accomplished
All manner of things
Some are small
And hardly worth mention
But all
Seem beautiful
In their completion 

The future looks nice
So tidy and neat
Fulfilling
Rewarding
Joyful and sweet
Where no one is cranky
And everyone's thankful
For all that they have
And all that will be

We're having such fun
In those future days 
Nothing is boring
Unfair
Or annoying
And it never rains
Cause the sun 
Always shines 
And nobody ever cooks 
FISH
For lunch 
In the microwave



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