How to Converse with Women in the Office - Tips for Guys

The Informational Approach

"Hi, Jane! Did you see the article on gene therapy in the New York Times? They think that they might have a cure for leukemia within ten years."

Result: FAILURE

Jane will have a puzzled look on her face. "Uh, I'm really busy right now," she'll say as she directs her attention back to her computer monitor. If you continue discussing your original topic, she'll grab her purse and retreat to the ladies room where she'll spend time wondering when you turned into a babbling weirdo.


The Complimentary Approach

"Hi, Alice! Are those new shoes? They look amazing!"

Result: UNPREDICTABLE

Alice might show genuine appreciation for the compliment and will try to verify and clarify your comment. "Do you like them?" she may ask. If you convince her that your admiration is genuine (but not uncomfortable), she might spend some time chatting with you.

On the other hand, if Alice is suspicious of your intentions, or if she is uncomfortable receiving compliments, she'll wonder why you're checking out her shoes.


The Basic Desires Approach

"Hi, Amanda! We should have lunch at that new place on Third Avenue. Mary Ann says that the chocolate fondue is better than the weekend of steamy revenge sex that she had with her college boyfriend just before he got married."

Result: POSITIVE

"Oh my goodness!" Amanda exclaims. "I LOVE chocolate fondue! We should go next week!"


Yeah, well, I haven't figured it out, either. But that's how it seems to work.


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